Katie Alexander, MA LPC
I am going to preface this with many people may dislike these words I am about to say…
Your life is only going to be what you make it. Every choice you make will impact how your day will turn out. You may choose to dwell on the negative thoughts you have OR you can choose to identify the truths buried underneath the surface. You can choose to focus on the pain, division and destruction OR you can acknowledge all that is good and kind and pleasant in this world.
Either way you have to spin it – your choices make a difference – for better or for worse.
I am reminded of this often times when I find those negative thoughts coming to mind. Practicing awareness for many years now, I find that I can catch them early enough to change direction. I know that I can choose to dwell in them enough to create truth there…or I can refocus my attention to every good thing I can think of off the top of my head. It’s amazing the weight that lifts as soon as I put pen to paper and can then physically see all of the amazing and beautiful things in my life.
When was the last time you wrote down all that you are thankful for?
Let’s go through a little exercise, shall we?
First – Grab a pen and a piece of paper, post it note, white board…literally anything you have that you can write on.
Second – Sit down a take the deepest breath you have taken all day. Begin to settle into this moment and allow yourself to simply be here.
Third – Think about 3 things, people, events, acts, behaviors, etc. that you are thankful for today. (Here are a few to get you started: the sun shining, speaking with a loved one, cooking and enjoying a delicious meal, laughing, seeing your child smile, the fact that you are alive and your body allows you to move and do the things you love to do)
Fourth – Take a second to close your eyes and notice how you feel in this moment. No judgment. Simply notice what arises.
This simple exercise takes only a few minutes to go through and can have an amazingly positive impact on your mood and overall well being. What do you think would happen if you intentionally acknowledged all that is good in your life on a daily basis? I challenge you to try it out – practice this every day for one week and see what happens to your perspective.